Everyone has those friends theyve known forever.
The basis of your friendship lies in your sharedchildhood experiences and inthe fact youve grown up together. The friendship is comfortable; its what youve always known.
Youve wadedthrough your school years, surrounded by the same circle without even realizing it. Theyvealways been a part of your life, and you dont even second-guess them.
Then, the time comes when youre forced to be a little fish in a big pond as you make new friends inthe intimidating world of college.
Friendships are no longer safe and convenient. Instead, youre faced with the daunting task of getting to know people from the ground up.What if they dont acceptthe annoying habits your lifelong friends have learned to love? What if your senses of humor clash? What if you simply dont click with anyone around you?
If you fast forward a few weeks,your worries arequickly forgotten. You soon realize that your home friends were the only ones to comment on your annoying habits. Your humor extends farbeyond your ancient insidejokes from middle school. Instead, youform some of the strongest connections youve ever made.
Youve made a fresh start, and youve created an entirely new you from your new surroundings.
You are finally the person youve always wanted to be, and your past is finally in the past. What does that mean for your home friends, though?
Essentially, it means they might notknow you as well as they used to. Now, they begin to feel somewhat like strangers.
Your home friends are reminiscentof the old you: the one youre incredibly proud to leave behind. You meet people that tolerate the things that your old friends would shut down immediately.
Your new friends have helped you discover interests you didnt even know you had, and theyve taught you what it means to be truly valued.Theyveoffered you a whole world of opportunities.
Despite how great it feels,your instinct may still be tocling to the safety of your old friends. Everything right now is new and risky. Before long, however, you realize that you have drifted from home. You quickly recognizethat growing up together isnt a strong enough thread to hold a friendship together.
You find that you dont enjoy thesame things as your home friendsanymore. Before college, you mighthave compromised, feeling like you had no choice.
Now, you know that you have quality friends that share common interests with you. These friendships require more effort and time, but theyre worth the energy.
You begin to value your new friends more and more. You become less tolerant of things youve always tried to ignore, which creates some notable tension. Your ties to your childhood friends loosen, and the times you spend together now feel a bit forced.
Youre bound to feel sad and nostalgic. No matter how valuableyour college friends may be, you still have unforgettable memories with your home ones. Its inevitable youll miss the memories associated with your childhood.
Its important to remember that college has been the chance for you to gain independence. Youll still miss home and everything associated with it, but as time goes on, you learn not to cling onto a friendship just because its familiar.
Its OK to not want to let go of the past. The memories are not lost, so hold them tightly. In the end, it is OK to let go of something that no longer offers you what you need. Youve evolved in a hugely positive way. Embrace it.